RELEASING THE PAST: HOW LETTING GO OF MY FATHER’S POTENTIAL LIBERATED MINE

 

“Even in his final days, as pancreatic cancer took its toll, I fiercely loved my dad and still saw his potential, shining faintly amidst his pain. But looking back, I realize now—his pain wasn’t mine to carry. It’s a truth I wish I had understood sooner, and one I hope my words inspire within you today.” ~ Angela xo

Have you ever had a moment so profound it felt like your higher self was speaking directly to you? One of those soul-shaking realizations where everything suddenly clicks? This morning, I had one of those moments—a transformative realization about letting go of the wounded masculine energy that’s been holding me back.

If you’re reading this, chances are you’re also navigating your own healing journey, looking to release old patterns and step into a life of ease and empowerment. In this post, I’ll share how understanding my past, especially my relationship with my father, is freeing me break away from old wounds and embrace an even more aligned and authentic version of myself.

“I was a daddy’s girl and my grandfather’s firstborn grand child. Both were deeply emotional men; both were alcoholics. And both died tragically, far too early, from their own unresolved pain—pain they didn’t heal, no matter how fiercely I loved them."

What Is the Wounded Masculine?

The “wounded masculine” refers to unhealed patterns of behaviour rooted in control, overwork, anger, and emotional suppression. These traits often stem from societal conditioning and generational trauma, influencing how we approach relationships, self-worth, and even our sense of purpose.

For many of us, this energy shows up as:

  • Over-giving in relationships.

  • Seeking validation through external achievements.

  • Sacrificing personal well-being to “save” others.

  • Struggling to balance productivity with rest.

Breaking free from these patterns isn’t easy, but it’s the first step toward living with more ease and authenticity.

My Story: From Wounded Healer to Empowered Soul

As a fiery Aries Sun with Sagittarius Rising, I’ve always been wired for growth and freedom. Yet, for much of my life, I found myself stuck in cycles of exhaustion—holding vigil for others’ potential while neglecting my own well-being.

This pattern began in childhood when I was sent to live with my father after my parents’ divorce. My father, an alcoholic and workaholic, was a complex and highly emotional man. While he fiercely loved his family, his unresolved pain manifested as anger, blame, and self-destruction. As a young girl, I was conditioned to see his potential, to empathize and soothe his pain, and to ignore my own needs in the process.

This dynamic followed me into adulthood, shaping how I approached relationships and healing work. I became a “wounded healer,” pouring myself into others’ growth while sacrificing my own light.

"I looked happy on the outside, but in truth, I was performing—wearing so many masks I didn’t even realize existed. I was a high-achiever, desperately craving for him to see me as worthy of his love, not as an outlet for his pain. Beneath it all, I was deeply confused about who I was as a woman, lost in the struggle to reconcile my worth with his approval."

The Shift: Realizing It’s Time to Let Go

Healing is a spiral, and just when you think you’ve done all the work, life hands you another layer to uncover. My recent “aha” moment revealed how deeply I’ve been holding onto the wounded masculine energy, not just from my father but from years of ingrained patterns.

Here’s what I realized:

  • Falling in Love with Potential: I’ve often tried to “save” people who weren’t ready to change, pouring energy into relationships that drained me.

  • Releasing the Savior Role: It’s not my job to convince anyone of their worth or light. My only responsibility is to tend to my own.

  • Embracing Ease: By letting go of these patterns, I can live with more alignment, balance, and joy.

How to Release the Wounded Masculine

If this resonates with you, here are a few steps to start releasing the wounded masculine energy in your own life:

  1. Identify the Patterns: Reflect on relationships or situations where you’ve over-given or ignored your own needs.

  2. Set Boundaries: Practice saying “no” to things that drain your energy and “yes” to what lights you up.

  3. Prioritize Self-Care: Focus on practices that nurture your mind, body, and spirit.

  4. Stay Curious: Healing is a journey. Stay open to messages from your soul and trust the process.

  5. Seek Support: Join a community or program that aligns with your growth and healing goals.

"At just 8 years old, I stepped into the role of a parentified child, taking on responsibilities far beyond my years. Saving my sisters from pain became my survival strategy—a way to navigate the chaos and find some semblance of control in a world that felt anything but safe."


What’s Next: Living More Authentic in 2025

As I move into 2025, I’m embracing a new paradigm: letting the wounded masculine die and stepping even further into my light - Into my birthright. This means living in a way that allows my light to shine without forcing or overextending.

If you are reading this and you are on this journey of breaking free from old patterns and stepping into your more empowered self. I see you!

Join the Empowered Soul Collective

Are you ready to stop holding onto others’ potential and finally step fully into your own light? The Empowered Soul Collective is here to support you on that journey.

This membership is for women who are ready to:

  • Release old patterns and wounds that no longer serve them.

  • Reconnect with their authentic selves.

  • Live from a soul-led space filled with balance, ease, and purpose.

I invite you to join a community of like-minded women, all committed to personal growth, empowerment, and living authentically. As Jack Johnson so beautifully says:
"It’s not always easy and sometimes life can be deceiving. I’ll tell you one thing—it’s always better when we’re together."

This is a new adventure for me, and I’m excited to build this space with you. As a founding member, you’ll receive exclusive benefits with a limited-time offer.

Click "Join Now" to learn more and discover if this path resonates with the woman you’re becoming. Let’s keep undoing the shit that keeps us small and impact the next generation to love fiercely in a way that makes an impact!

With fierce love,

Angela xo

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I’m Angela. As an educator, a therapist, and Women’s Empowerment Mentor I am here to help you live a soul-led life one healing at a time.


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