THE POWER OF HEALING: REDISCOVER YOUR TRUE SELF
"True healing begins when you stop seeking validation outside and start recognizing the power within." ~Angela xo
In a world that constantly tells us to chase external validation, it’s easy to forget that our true worth doesn’t come from the outside—it comes from within. From a young age, many of us are conditioned to believe that our value is tied to how much we achieve, how much we can give to others, or how perfectly we fulfill society’s expectations. Whether it’s through our careers, relationships, or even the roles we take on in family and social circles, the message is clear: you need to prove your worth. But what if that’s not true?
What if your worth has been inside you all along?
The Trap of External Validation
We’ve all been there—feeling proud when someone compliments our work, or feeling crushed when we’re criticized. In these moments, it’s easy to believe that our value is determined by how others perceive us. Midlife, in particular, can amplify these feelings. With shifting careers, evolving relationships, and significant life transitions like children leaving home or caring for aging parents, it’s common to feel lost and wonder if you’re still enough.
But relying on external validation to define your worth is like building a house on shaky ground. No matter how much praise or approval you receive, it’s temporary. When those moments pass, you’re left searching for the next wave of validation to feel good about yourself. This cycle keeps you focused outward, waiting for others to tell you that you matter.
The Journey Within
The truth is, your worth doesn’t fluctuate based on what you achieve or what others think of you. It’s something intrinsic, inherent—something you were born with. And to tap into that, you must turn inward and recognize that your value comes from simply being you.
True healing begins when you stop seeking validation outside and start recognizing the power within.
But how do you start?
1. Let Go of External Measures
It’s time to question the narratives you’ve been told about what makes you valuable. Is your self-worth tied to the number on the scale, your job title, or your ability to care for others? These are external measures of success that don’t define the fullness of who you are. You are more than any one role or responsibility.
2. Recognize Your Inherent Value
Your worth isn’t something you earn; it’s something you are. You don’t have to “do” anything to be valuable. You are already worthy because you exist. This is an idea that takes time to internalize, especially in a world that rewards hustle and productivity. But recognizing your inherent value can be incredibly freeing.
3. Practice Self-Compassion
When you catch yourself seeking external validation, pause and reflect on where that need is coming from. Instead of criticizing yourself for wanting approval, practice self-compassion. Treat yourself with the kindness you would offer to a dear friend. Remind yourself that your worth is not up for debate, no matter what’s happening around you.
4. Celebrate Who You Are, Not Just What You Do
Take time to celebrate the qualities that make you who you are—your kindness, your resilience, your ability to love deeply, your sense of humor. These are the things that can’t be measured by external success, but they make you unique and worthy. Reflect on moments when you’ve shown up for yourself or others in ways that align with your core values.
Owning Your Worth
When you stop looking outside for your worth and start seeing it within yourself, everything changes. You no longer feel the need to chase validation or approval. Instead, you can show up authentically, with confidence, knowing that your value is unshakable. Even in times of uncertainty, when life feels messy and out of control, you can return to this inner knowing: you are enough, exactly as you are.
Midlife can be a powerful time to reclaim your sense of self-worth. As you reflect on what truly matters, you have the opportunity to let go of external measures of success and embrace the deeper truth that your value isn’t tied to your achievements, your appearance, or your ability to meet others’ expectations. Your worth comes from within, and it has always been there—waiting for you to recognize it.
Ready to Rediscover Your Worth?
If you’re ready to stop seeking validation outside of yourself and start embracing the truth of your inner worth, I invite you to join Level 1 – Heal: The Foundations of Empowered Healing to Reclaim Your True Self. This 12-week journey is designed to help you reclaim your power, reconnect with your authentic self, and break free from the limiting beliefs that have kept you stuck.
Together, we’ll explore the tools, practices, and support you need to truly own your worth from the inside out. It’s time to stop merely surviving and start thriving. Your healing journey starts now—let’s take the first step together.
I’m Angela. Hello, A trailblazing Psychotherapist, Founder of the HRT Academy, Women’s Empowerment Mentor, Author, and Revolutionary Thought Leader. My passion is helping mid-life women leverage their blind spots & maximize life!